Not So Fearless After All

We recently had our first Post-Placement visit from our Homestudy Agency. Russia requires these "updates" to see how the child is doing in their new home, at 6 months, 1 year, 2 year, and 3 years. It is hard to believe that it has almost been 6 months now that Owen has been home. The visit went fine, and I think the caseworker was pleased with how well he has adjusted.

One thing that they ask about is attachment, of course, and they ask questions to see if there are any red flags. For example, it can be an issue if the child "indiscriminately attaches" to anyone and everyone. I told her I thought Owen was not shy, and was pretty friendly, but I didn't necessarily think he would just go off with anyone. But I have to admit, I wasn't sure about that one. Everytime we go to the mall, and he sees Santa, for instance, he waves like crazy and wants nothing more than to run after him. This is far different from my other two, who have never, NEVER wanted to get close to Santa. Even now. So, while it was cute, I was wondering a little whether it was a bad sign.

I finally decided to take Owen (when the other 2 were at school) and get his picture taken with the Big Guy. I thought it would be cute to include in Christmas cards, since we haven't taken him in for a formal photo session yet (sounds like soooo much work to take all 3 in and try to get them sitting and happy at one time). Well...let me tell you. It is one thing to wave and say Hello to Santa, and it is an entirely other thing to sit on his lap and not be safe in Mommy's arms. So...I'm not upset that he didn't smile for the picture. This was the split second before he burst into terrible sobs. It actually made me feel kind of good that he didn't want to go off with the man and wave Goodbye to me. And once he was back in my arms, he cheered right up again and waved Goodybe to Santa.

I didn't buy many of these shots, but it's good for a first Christmas home memory. And I am secretly happy to know that he is not totally fearless. I think that is a good thing.